Why wait?

One of the most common problems I see from a romantic standpoint is unrequited love. In many cases a boy will meet a girl (and vice versa), fall for them without a parachute, and proceed to do nothing about it. An explanation is often offered to me, “I don’t want to face the possible rejection.” I’ve used this excuse before, though I’m well aware that I’d be better off if I hadn’t.
Let me outline the three possible outcomes of just going for it and asking her:


1. She says yes. 
This answer is a romantic jackpot. She replies. Sure, why not. Oh dear me yes. Come to bed with me now. Or just to Starbucks. When you properly ask a single girl out with confidence and polite manners, she’ll probably say yes. Isn’t that what you want? This should be enough incentive as it is to ask her out. Ask her to dinner so you have plenty of time to socialize.

2. She says no.
While unlikely that she will blatantly refuse, it’s a possible scenario. Think about it, though. If she was going to say no, aren’t you glad you didn’t waste any time getting that answer out of her? Suppose you’d waited months on end to hear the same rejection. You’d be much worse off. Plus, now you’re in a position to get over her. Don’t continue to ask; find someone who will say yes. There are plenty of other girls who are begging for it from you already.

3. She says maybe.

If you haven’t taken the time to get to know her, or even introduce yourself to her, she might just not be sure yet whether to say yes. This is your cue to take action and make her see you in a different light. Ask if she would like to go see a movie or something with little pressure yet plenty of opportunity to socialize. Pay for her ticket like a gentleman and work your magic.

Situation one is what you’re gunning for of course. Situation two sucks, but it allows you to make progress towards someone else who is actually worth your time. Situation three offers you an opportunity at the very least. In the end, each possible scenario is a good one. 

What doesn’t work, however, is letting the whole thing simmer on the back burner. If you don’t have the courage to ask, there’s no chance of things ever working. If you ask, you’ll at least give a relationship the best chance it had. It was once said that “you miss 100% of the shots you don't take”. This applies to your romantic situation just as well as it will ever apply to your field goal percentage on the court.